As I stand overwhelmed by the greeting card section, it’s 3 weeks away but the Mother’s Day cards are out in force. All the cards are pink or floral or loving or funny - sometimes all four. But where are the cards for those who struggle with this day? For those who might have lost their mother, a child, struggling with miscarriages or have a complex relationship with motherhood.

At Motherkind, our mission is to help mothers feel empowered and confident - and a vital part of that mission is to recognize and support the complexities of motherhood.

So this Mother’s Day, if for whatever reason you are feeling a cocktail of emotions, let me help you take a breath and find a way to be gentle to yourself, whatever you’re facing.

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Zoe’s top 5 steps to unravel:

1) Reflect on how you feel about Mother’s Day - what emotions does it bring up for you? One of my favorite coaching quotes is that the quality of your experience depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself. So take a moment to ask yourself - what does this day mean to me? Is it important? How do I feel?

2) Welcome the feelings that are coming up for you. It’s very common to want to ignore your feelings, especially when we haven’t been taught how to process them. Through my podcast Motherkind,, I met the incredibly wise Phillipa Perry who said to me, “think about it when you’re not heard, you get louder and louder - emotions are the same.”So counterintuitive as it sounds, we have to welcome in all our emotions. What we resist, persists.

3) Support yourself by opening up to someone you really trust, or write out your feelings in a journal. Think about what you need to feel emotionally supported.

4) Boundaries are how you work out and communicate to others what works for you. So think if there’s any boundaries you need to set around Mother’s Day. Do you need to opt out of marketing materials or not go on social media that day?

5) Celebrate the way you want to be celebrated this Mother’s Day. Forget how you think it “should” look and focus on what would feel amazing to you. Remember that you deserve to be celebrated, seen and recognized for all you bring.

Motherhood is one of the most invisible roles there is. No one sees the worry, the mental load, the hours and hours parenting, soothing, playing, organizing, sorting and planning.

Make sure you make it visible to yourself this Mother’s Day, by celebrating yourself.

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